THERE'S NO GREATER PEACE THAN THE PEACE OF MIND
Hi beautiful soul! I am grateful to see you here!
My mind like the majority of humans, is an amalgam of random fears, repetitive thought patterns and inexplicable judgements which I used to consciously follow with strong belief programmed since birth. Nobody told me that our mind is just a simple "monkey" playing in a "world full of bananas". It is reassuring to realise that everyone has a “monkey mind” filled with fantasies, stories, wild imaginings, and thoughts both useful and ridiculous. In other words, the mind has a mind of its own. It can’t be controlled, but—no problem—you CAN learn to manage it like I did.
The mind is a set of cognitive faculties including imagination, perception, thinking, judgement, language and memory. Much of what we don't understand about being human is simply in our heads. Moreover, even though the mind is created by the brain, the mind can operate with some independence from the brain. In fact, the mind can actually change the brain. Is that powerful! Just like a thought can go a long way if you focus your attention and belief on it.
Using mindful awareness, you can stand outside your own mind as if you are watching it. The “watching part,” sometimes called “the Observing Self”, is somewhat detached from emotions and can view your thoughts and actions with some impartial objectivity. By contrast, the “experiencing” part of your mind notices sense impressions and has emotional reactions to them. Makes you really "think" about it, doesn't it?
Why it’s important: Noticing your mental habits and activities (fantasies, stories, ideas) is the first step toward calming or changing your mind. Developing an Observing Self is also critical to monitoring your actions.
If we have a pattern of behaviour and we clamp down on it without actually addressing its genesis, as well as its applicability or necessity in our lives, it tends to come out sideways. What this speaks to, in part, is our degree of mindfulness. If we are paying attention, we understand where things start and where they have the potential to go.
In my case, experiencing a traumatic life, recognising my own behavioural patterns took almost a decade and a lot of courage. I was torn by the discrepancy between what I thought, how it manifests and feels and what was presented in real time, a phenomenon that impacted my personality and reaction towards others and the world and for a lot of time I was not even aware of it. That included impatience and a sense of urgency about accomplishing things; aggressiveness, victimisation and sometimes hostility toward others; and a constant desire to obtain love and recognition in all forms possible. I would chase and change myself to fit. I would throw anything I could at them to get people to stay. I would not even think at personal boundaries and just lose myself in my unquenchable thirst to be validated and loved by a partner or friend. Not all choices were bad but all were simply reminders and teachers on where I should focus my attention. And wit gratitude I can say that each one helped me learn and grow, helped me to become who I am today.
Our belief system
A belief system is an ideology or set of principles that helps us to interpret our everyday reality. Beliefs are our brain’s way of making sense of and navigating our complex world. They are mental representations of the ways our brains expect things in our environment to behave, and how things should be related to each other. With all our intellectual smarts and education you would think that changing a belief would be easy but it is quite a difficult process a human can experience. The first step to changing a belief is to understand their construct and what makes us so attached to them.
Here is a typical belief that you might be motivated to change like me?
*I’m not lovable. – A self judgment that creates feelings of unworthiness.
A strong belief will automatically imply an emotional connection to it. Usually the idea, or thought, by itself doesn’t FEEL bad. It is when we have that thought as a belief that we have strong emotions. It is the emotions part that cause us the misery. A thought by itself is just a concept in the form of a sentence or statement that we can manipulate with our intellect. We can pick up an idea or drop it in a moment without any problem. It's all a matter of shifting your attention and training your mind-intellect. And this is why positive self-talk is crucial in ones life journey and evolution.
Steps to Change a Belief
Become aware of the different parts that make up a belief.
Release the emotions held in those beliefs.
Shift your perspective so you can see the identity as false.
Break the bonds of faith that make an idea or thought powerful.
The Ego Mind
The ego is an identity of our own construction, an identity which is false. If we take all the beliefs of what we are – beliefs about our personality, talents, and abilities – we have the structure of our ego. In psychology and theories arising from the world, the ego plays a crucial role in the psyche. It forms our self-concept and is an essential part of human cognitive function. In fact on the spiritual path the ego can be an obstruction to enlightenment. The ego mind is amazingly arrogant and has more than just thoughts and beliefs; it has emotions, memories, visual images and a life of its own. It simply wants to believe what it believes; it doesn’t want to let go and is happy to stay in its own little bubble of consciousness. When looking at what the world calls ego, or what spiritual work calls ego, instead of condemning it, we can see, out of innocence, that is what we believed at the time. What we did was appropriate if that programming had been correct. Therefore, we don't really make a "mistake" in our spiritual work as everything does happen for a higher purpose that we are not yet aware.
Finding your true self (the REAL you), which thrives on love and intuition, requires separating the ego mind (the FALSE you), which thrives on fear and judgment.
Most of us think we are in "control". Where in fact we are being "controlled" by greed, by lust for power and control, by insecurity, by the need of validation etc. We are being controlled by a subtle lie called the Ego-Mind. There is a You that can choose anything in any moment from what to think and what to feel. The You that can create, with love, simply by allowing your Self to Be. That is the You that deserves to be fed your love and attention.
Your Mind needs training just like your body does
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I simply refuse to identify with any labels to be honest, my earthly studies are in marketing and communication but I have done loads of side studies in psychology, spiritualism and human behaviour. However, I do have a LOT of life experience and I travelled the world seeking healing and knowledge from ancient traditions and cultures in order to discover what truly matters most when it comes to feeling joyful, connected and living a life of deep inner meaning.
I’m real, raw, completely honest, and I’m all about cutting through the false beliefs that float around out whether inside or outside of ourselves. I’m serious about the work it takes in healing as I have been through it myself and about letting our true souls fly free from their shells.
And I am not here to sell you something, I am here to simply be in service with humility and a true heart, for anybody who needs a bit of light on their path. Obviously, everything is just my take on things from all the research I have been doing, healing journey and my own life long experience, so use what resonates with your Soul or let's have a chat!